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Wife and I are in a heated discussion about one of her friends so GITT

Apr 18, 2024, 8:59 AM

since some of yall are stepdads, some are trying to be step dads (stubborn_tiger) and I know everyone else has had the thought of "If I tell this ##### exactly what I'm thinking I'm going to be divorced and have to be some brat's step dad"

So here's the situation:

Backstory:
Friend of wife, we will call Jackie had just remarried. She has 3 kids. One is in middle school and a great kid. One is a freshman in high school, also a great kid. One is a senior in high school, he's a little turd nugget. Senior kid HATES new stepdad. Bio dad HATES new step dad because Bio dad wants Jackie back. Younger kids like new step dad.

Situation:

Jackie will NOT let new stepdad discipline the children. I'm not talking about spanking etc. I'm talking about if he tells the kids to do something and they don't do it he has to get her permission to ground them. Senior kid is taking advantage of this and being a little #### on purpose. Finally ol dude had enough and told Jackie that if he can't have some autonomy in how the people in the house act and treat him then he's leaving. Ol girl said bye. He left.

Our sides:

My wife's side is: That's my children not yours. You get a say in discipline but I have the final decision in how my children are raised and disciplined.

My side is: When we got married, what was yours became ours. That means those are our kids (me, wife, bio dad). I'm going to have a say and a role in disciplining the children that are in my house. We can discuss it, but the decision will be mutual not a "thank you for your input"

Who's right?

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you're right.

had a buddy who is dating a chick, and she was saying similar stuff to him. as they continued to progress (talking < 6 months here), he realized the kid was a little turd nugget as well, and said no chance I'm taking this relationship any further relying upon you only disciplining and having the bio dad undercut me at every turn.

broke it off.

allegedly, she's working on this stuff, they're still banging, idk, he's an idiot (she's hot though, I'll give him that). but proud he said nah

I have a co-worker in a similar boat. He's the step dad, who happens to have 2 kids w/ the wife as well. so 2 step kids, and 2 of his kids, same woman. fairly high falutin people here...she's a doctor at a big ATL hospital, he's a VP level dude in my company.

he's got a major, major mess. step son calls cops (I think 3 times), yells, screams, punches holes in wall, steals ####, has gotten arrested like twice, expelled, all kinds of ####. I use him as an example to friends looking at single moms as a warning sign. my buddy can do absolutely nothing, even in GA.

Wife and I are in a heated discussion about one of her friends so GITT

Who is right is dependent upon what you find more attractive

See. This is (another) shidpost.

So all divorced guys remarry immediately and become a step-dad?

Those who can't.

question got me feeling like....

IMO you are right

What is this, the view?

Eh, pretty sure he thinks he's on reddit.

He prob just copied it from Reddit.

for once

"had a buddy who is dating a chick"

Let me put it this way.......

Re: Let me put it this way.......

Re: Wife and I are in a heated discussion about one of her friends so GITT

Except the whole

Sounds about right. The courts are definitely prejudice against men.***

Not the courts I work with.

Good. That's what it should be instead of dad sending child support

Re: Wife and I are in a heated discussion about one of her friends so GITT

What kind of dog rides in the passenger seat?***

This seems like just another reason why a person

No kidding, I couldn't imagine wanting to put myself in that kind of situation

I have a buddy that's in that situation.

The pooty can't be worth it man, they're liable to be causing

He's on a countdown to when they turn 18.

Wife is right***

As a step father myself this is a normal dynamic

And I'm sure that's normal. I think what this little punk was doing is

One time I threw the modem off the back porch

So your wife is about to move in with the State Trooper, and you

Honestly we need pics of his wife to really make an educated decision***

I'm gonna be honest, if my baby mama's fling tried to

I'm with you, but you say that and don't know what it's like

Re: Wife and I are in a heated discussion about one of her friends so GITT

Bro

Odds are marriage will end in divorce. She needs to read - 2nd marriage 101***

Depends on severity of discipline

You are right.

This being an issue *after* they are married suggests he's a gigantic idiot.

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This being an issue after they are married suggests he's a gigantic idiot.