Re: Advice on teens of this generation please (Long)

There are obviously still some solid kids who work hard and appreciate everything. Most of the kids these days are spoiled, soft and know nothing about hard work. Unfortunately both of my step sons fall into this category despite my efforts. Their father does nothing but be a negative influence in this area as he is the don't pay child support regularly but buys them 200 dollar shoes does the "cool things" kind of dude. Their mother somewhat limits how hard she wants me to be on the due to her rough childhood. There IS a reason I am posting this:

The younger one played football and is going into the 10th grade. He basically quit this spring and was unable to really provide a reason. I knew the real reason wad he doesn't want to put in the hard work of lifting weights, conditioning and all that. He expects to just be good. I bet my wife, the terms to be left off the interwebs, back when he quit that he would try to play again when the off-season no fun stuff was over. Sure enough, Thursday he says wants to play again. First thing he wants to do is go buy new stuff so he looks good which is typical for him to be more worried about that than getting to work. I despise this whole attitude. How should I approach??!!

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Re: How exactly was it out of line?

Aug 22, 2022, 3:09 PM

First of all I made it clear that there are many outstanding young people of this generation that have obviously been raised correctly.

Secondly, the part about generation differences was more in the title and I made clear the specific issues that were being faced.

In no way did I cop out and use the generational thing as an excuse or throw my hands up and quit. However, all you did was point out how successful you have been with your son, imply that I was a parent coping out and blaming the generation, then told me to "start there." So yes you did attempt to discredit the dynamics of my situation by basically telling me to stop using the generation as an excuse.

Your post was worthless and based on others responses I'd say they agree.

I will entertain you with some examples of what's making it tougher on parents.

1) You notice your kid and all his teammates not hustling and quiting on a game they are losing. You then bring it up as a teaching point but the kid gets pissed off because the couches are sunshine pumpers and had praised them for giving 100% til the end. BS

2) You attempt to teach you kid a lesson about doing his schoolwork on time but the teachers let them turn it in months later with little penalty.

3) The LOWEST grade they will give a kid on an assignment they completed is 50. ###?

4) On top of this minimum score they get to retake almost every test the do poorly on.

I could go on and on about things that are going on that don't help teaching responsibility, accountability and pride in work. The post I made was more about my kids specific situation. And I wasn't really looking for advice so much as assurance that I wasn't an a@@hole.

Thanks again for your worthless contribution.

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